This is a special episode of Lost In The Farmers Market. It
is not special because I’ve run across some new breed of plant or gardening
technique. It is not special because there is an April Fool’s Day trick written
into this post. Honestly If I ever posted on time I’d think that would be
trickery enough. No, this time I will be discussing in detail the construction
of a garden bed and the clearing and adaptation of land to achieve the goals of
a given project.
For those of you who do not know, On February 5th
at 3:00 pm my mother passed away due to complications of Ovarian Cancer. She
was diagnosed in October of 2015, and it was at stage four by the time it was
clearly diagnosed. This made for a long battle that lasted seventeen months. In
one of our conversations while we were at the funeral home sorting her affairs
in advance just in case the worst happened she asked me what I would do with
her ashes after she was gone as she intended to be cremated. I honestly had no
idea as it was a new idea; I mean the idea of having the sole responsibility to
lie to rest someone’s mortal remains isn’t something to be considered at the
spur of the moment. It’s something you think about for a while and find
(hopefully) the most considerate option. I asked her what she wanted as I had
no idea what to do in that given circumstance and seemingly randomly, she asked
if ashes made for good fertilizer. Honestly this fell into a strange grey area
for me because I knew of potash and that the word alkaline came from a Arabic
word for wood ashes but I had never really heard of the idea of using human
ashes as fertilizer. Chemically I suppose the plants growing on such a plot
would not know the difference, ash is ash give or take a few trace minerals and
nutrients, but I doubt anyone would dare eat any food grown on such a site. I told
her that I did recall that ashes and bone meal did help bulbs grow and she
thought about this for a moment and said that she wanted ther ashes to be used
as fertilizer for a bed. I asked her what she wanted planted there and she
asked for ‘Lilies, like the ones at my house by the mailbox… but white.’ And that
cemented the plan for the interment of her mortal remains. Thus this post will
cover the construction of the memorial bed and the associated projects leading
up to its completion.
To frame the series of events, Mom died on the 5th
of February, and her Funeral was not until February the 19th.
Normally this would be a major problem but mon chose to be cremated so the
actual memorial service could be delayed by two weeks to allow family and friends
to come into town to pay their respects. Work on her memorial garden did not
start until the 22nd of February because of the complications of
handling the funeral and its aftermath. On the first work date, the first tasks
on hand in order were; survey the site, determine exposure to sunlight, assess
problems with the land and begin initial clearing if possible.
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| The future site of the memorial garden as seen when facing towards the front yard. |
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| The future site of the memorial garden when facing towards the right hand side of the yard. |
The site itself is relatively full sun with a 5-8% slope give or take. The sand there is relatively sandy and organic matter poor to the point that it will barely sustain sweet potatoes and a number of crops grown there have failed. Some of you readers can see the raised mound where prior attempts to grow things in the area have been tried and were unsuccessful. The overhanging trees are mainly composed of Carolina Cherries (Prunus caroliniana), Tree of Heaven (Ailanthus altissima), and the occasional oak or hickory. The first order of business was to lop off any overhanging branches so that the new garden has no competition from weed trees and in the image below you can see the beginning of the pruning that was talked about in March's post.
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| This pile of cut tree limbs is just the beginning. |
Work did not resume for a few days due to weather and other factors and it was not until the 1st of March that things got really interesting. During this time the hedgerow clearing project was underway, which cut all the privets along the driveway down to a three foot height but also the clearing of the land occurred also. I raked away small debris, and took measurements of the area to understand just what I was working with. The bed would be 9 feet by 8 feet roughly if I left the existing edge of the old bed mostly intact.
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| The mound with the leaves and small debris cleared is still not much to look at. |
It also meant that my original plan to place one white Asiatic/Easter lily bulb per year my mother lived would not fill the space. She lived 77 years and by my calculation I had room for at least 88 bulbs. I knew that My aunt was sending 12 bulbs which meant that I had to worry about 76 more with room to spare so the planting list ended up going from a simple 77 bulbs to something like the following.
6x Annika Asiatic Lily
66x Casa Blanca Asiatic Lily
17x White Trumpet Lily
20x Star Gladiolas (Peacock Orchid, Gladiolas acidanthera)
3x Hymenocallis (Preuvian Daffodil)
All of the above have pure white flowers except the gladiolas and the Annika lily but more than anything else all the actual lilies were known for size and scent. In total this meant there were 112 bulbs in the bed which guarantees there are no bare spots. Of course while waiting for the main shipment of lily bulbs to arrive I had the bulbs sent by my aunt and the buffer bulbs I'd bought (gladiolas, Hymenocallis, annika) start to sprout. This was a bad thing because Asiatic lilies are a specific type of bulb that can die very easily if they dry out. For comparison tulips and true daffodils are called tunicate bulbs which means they have a papery husk to help them survive longer, bulbs without this are called imbricate bulbs and they don't have such a good shelf life. As a stopgap to avoid loss of perfectly good but sprouting bulbs I had to partially plant the garden.
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| The first step to bed preparation in this case was to remove all the spent soil while leaving the edges of the bed relatively standing. |
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| The 8"x8" tamper was useful in flattening and leveling the inside of the garden bed and it's walls. |
The early planting and excavation occurred on the 19th of March, once the old soil was excavated out of the bed, the first decoration fot eh new bed was placed. Although the picture does not really show it, that is a double-shepherd's hook with a solar powered hummingbird light facing towards the house and a Woodstock wind chime facing towards the rear of the garden. Also in the above image you can see that the hedge row was effectively cleared by this point.
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| The fill soil of choice for the project was Black Kow and this is the first four cubic feet out of ten needed to complete the project. |
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| It isn't hard to see why I picked Black Kow, compared to the existing soil it's like literal night and day in color. |
The picture just above needs some explanation, the chicken wire is there to keep squirrels or other critters from digging up the bulbs. Also the long area of Black Kow on the left is where all the Asiatic lilies I had at the time were placed. The spot where the square grey paving stone is placed is where the Gladiolas and Hemerocallis are planted, the gladiolas are in front and the Hemerocallis are in the back just before the shepherd's hook. Work around the site and along the driveway would continue while I waited for the big shipment of lilies to arrive.
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As luck would have it, the shipment of lilies arrived on April Fool's Day, and due to this I resumed work the very next day, the first Sunday of April almost two months to the day my Mother died. The above image shows what the beds looked like after I removed the chicken wire in preparation to work. Some of you are wondering what the two objects are in the image above. The both hold critical significance to the memorial because one of them meant a lot to my Mother, and the other had spiritual significance to her. The statue is of a howling wolf, and at some point she went to a Native American powwow and found out that this was her spirit animal. But how I came into possession of this unique statue is an interesting story unto itself you can scroll down for that as it's just below the wolf's closeup. The second Item is a inscribed stone that sat near her front door, many visitors never noticed it but she took it wherever she called home. I'll explain that in detail below the stone's image.
This wolf statue wasn't at all what I was looking for when looking for a suitable marker for the location where here ashes would be interred. I was looking for something more symbolic I guess, maybe a cross or an ankh, something that espoused her life. One Sunday after much searching both online and in person I found myself at one of the many garden centers in the area, a Place called Big Bloomers and I figured, 'what the hell they have statues...lets take a glance.' I'd arrived there late and had about twenty minutes until closing time and begun looking through their selection of statues, most were just bland. Honestly I still don't know who thinks putting peeing cherubs in a garden is acceptable but to each their own. I wanted for about ten minutes until I hit the section with animals, and they too were bland, kittens, puppies varied farm animals and so on and then there sitting by itself with no others like it was the wolf you see. I looked at it and could not help but wonder what it was doing there as it didn't match anything else and it was literally the only one. On examination it had a price tag so it was inventory but when I got up to the booth they seemed not to know they had it either. Either way I ended up buying it with little care for the price as it was exactly right. I've been back to that nursery twice since and the spot where the statue stood is still empty so perhaps the old saying is right you don't choose the stone it chooses you. Ironically I had bought the square grey paving stone as a base for whatever statue I planned to buy, but the wolf has it's own base which then means I can use the paver for another problem I had no solution for at the time, the installation of a birdbath nearby.
Mom bought this stone while on Martha's Vineyard and she always placed it by the front door of her house. Many have entered and few have noticed it or even read it and yet it has sat there like a mute sentry to all who pass. She used to love going to the Vineyard during the early summer before it got too hot, but she found a similar experience in going to Hilton head for a week or two every year up until she was too sick to go. I figured it too was an appropriate thing to place in the memorial garden
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| Her Urn, it's carrying bag and, the dried roses that will fill the urn once it is emptied. |
So here's the urn, the velvet bag it goes in and, the dried roses are from the floral arrangements at the memorial service. Since all the arrangements had white roses with exception to the living arrangements I thought it would be a fitting tribute to fill the urn with the petals after the fact so something would be in there.
I will say this I did not know what to expect in the urn. But ashes dont take up much space but they seem rather heavy. One could say that the the weight of your final task adds to this or is most of this but I am not certain. The movies and television clearly get what cremated remains look like completely wrong. What came out of the urn was light grey powdery and without and noticeable 'chunks'.... though I was glad the wind was still because any wind could have blown this stuff all over the place. So I sprinkled the ashes gently in the remaining bed area that needed filling and set the bulbs down in a pattern as seen in the next photo.
No it's not the photo angle, your eyes or editing, those lily bulbs are very large. Large lily bulbs are a good sign they are healthy, vigorous and ready to grow. It tells me that despite the garden's cost overruns everything will look great. The pest part is the photo below with the soil filled and the mulch in place.
This site without a doubt which tourists can see during the Urban Farm Tour is most definitely a place of final rest. In case you are wondering, the Bulbs were planted at an effective depth of 4" with an additional 2" of mulch on average. This may seem a bit shallow but this bed is going to receive more care than my normal ones for several years to come. normally lilies are planted 6" down with out considering the mulch but since this already is a raised bed I wanted their roots to be at a high to get the most out of runoff during rain storms. I also know that the nutrient from the Black Kow will drip down to the roots of the lilies also while immediately having it on hand will accelerate their first year growth.
Feel free to ask any questions you like in the comments for this post and stay tuned for some more garden activity next month.
